How to connect with your inner child

From at-home pottery kits to smiley bright decor, here’s how to spark joy for your inner child
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words Sophie Lou Wilson
When was the last time you did something that made your inner child happy? Remember when you could while away hours doing arts and crafts or playing in the garden. As we grow up, it can be hard to find time for things that we enjoyed doing as children. One day, without knowing it, you went outside to play with your friends for the last time and never did it again. But why should we give up playful activities just because we’re grown-up now?
What is inner child work?
Everyone has an inner child and studies suggest that those who engage in inner child work demonstrate better emotional intelligence and adjustment. Psychotherapist and spokesperson for the UK Council for Psychotherapy, Noel Bell, explains how, “Having an inner child is to recognise the childlike part of your unconscious mind that continues to affect your adult life. Inner child work is about engaging in activities where you can become creative and rediscover your purity and innocence.”
Think about what you loved doing as a child. Maybe you used to spend time drawing or playing sport, but gave both up when life got busier. Inner child work can also be a chance to experience hobbies you always wanted to explore, but maybe didn’t have access to at the time. For example, ballet classes for adults are becoming increasingly popular as more of us revisit interests we abandoned or couldn't afford as kids.
Connecting with your inner child can be fun, but it also has some pretty helpful therapeutic benefits as well. According to Bell, embracing inner child work can help “address and heal from the harmful maladaptive experiences that occurred in early stages of your development. Learning to live a more confident and happy life, free from the emotional burdens of the past is the ultimate aim of inner child work.”
How to connect with your inner child
Inner child work might look different for everybody. Engaging in inner child work with a therapist might help you address and heal from past wounds. This can be uncomfortable at times. An example of inner child work is writing a letter to your younger self to let go of past emotional wounds.
However, connecting with your inner child doesn’t always have to be a heavy, painful experience. Some of the best ways to do the work involve engaging in playful activities that are just as enjoyable as an adult. Bell recommends “activities such as painting, meditation, music, dancing and storytelling" that "can be transformational in healing your inner child.”
Following this advice, we’ve selected a bunch of playful products to connect with your inner child and pick up some new, fun hobbies while you’re at it.
CLAY TIME
Get your hands dirty with Sculpd’s at-home pottery kit, containing everything you’ll need to sculpt, carve, paint and seal your own pots, trinket dishes, vases, pendants and so much more. To make the activity even more enjoyable, invite a friend and pretend to be kids again messing about with Play-Doh. You’ll wonder why you don’t get creative just for fun more often.
FEELING PUZZLED
Puzzles, but elevated. Turn off your mind for a while and focus instead on these 1,000 piece jigsaw puzzles from Rejig. These are puzzles for the modern age, designed by specially commissioned illustrators Sofie Birkin, Marylou Faure and Jose Mendez to respond to the theme of 'Origins'. The result is this 3-part puzzle collection, with each artist interpreting the brief in their own way. This way, you can connect to your inner child’s love of play while still having a cute artwork to hang on the wall when you’re done.
MEDITATION TOOLS
On a deeper level, connecting with your inner child is about healing past traumas or wounds. This is where meditation can be an important tool. Psychic Sisters’ Love Detox Bundle is all about healing and positivity. So show yourself some love as this crystal and candle set may help heal past emotional pain and focus on positive vibrations.
BE HAPPY
Decor for dopamine! Remember when your childhood bedroom was filled with vibrant, colourful things that sparked joy? Tap into that same upbeat energy with Wavey Casa’s smiley yellow rug. With a super soft fabric, the half-moon design is cosy AF and guaranteed to make you smile.
ARTS AND CRAFTS
This ultimate pottery bundle can facilitate hours of crafty fun. It’s for those that decide they want to start something, to learn something, and then go out and do it because there’s no age limit on discovering a new hobby. If your intention is to create some truly jaw-dropping home pottery pieces, then this is the bundle for you. You’ll have all the special tools, colours and inspiration you'll need, along with some gorgeous glossy varnish to 100% waterproof your pieces and give them that glossy ceramic finish.
HOP TO THE TOP
To be honest, we never really grew out of seeing cute, animal-shaped things and going all mushy inside. This candle does just that. The bunny-shaped hand-poured soy wax candle by Nata Concept Store makes an adorable ornament if you can’t bring yourself to light it.
SHE SELLS SEA SHELLS
There’s something about seashells that reminds us of childhood days out to the beach. These beautiful abalone shells have iridescent mother of pearl insides. They’re ideal for storing trinkets or jewellery.