Terrified of ageing? TikTok has a solution for timeless style

The dressing my mum like me trend proves that experimenting with style has no age limit

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The dressing my mum like me trend proves that experimenting with style has no age limit

By Sophie Lou Wilson05 Jan 2023
6 mins read time
6 mins read time

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There’s no rule that says your personal style has to change with age. Yet there’s a widespread assumption that growing up means dressing in more muted, serious clothes. Phrases like “dress your age” or even worse, “mutton dressed as lamb” send the message that experimenting with fashion has an age limit. TikTok’s latest viral fashion trend flips that on its head. In the turning my mum into me trend, TikTokers are lending clothes to their mums who then catwalk down the living room in cut-out tops and low-rise cargo pants, and each look is an absolute slay.

The feel-good trend has amassed more than 300 million views in recent weeks. It’s bringing a much-needed dose of joy to our For You Pages and shows no sign of slowing down. Mums in leather trousers, tube tops and furry knee-high boots have ushered in an awakening; the realisation that getting older doesn’t mean you have to stop having fun with fashion. It’s smashing the stereotype that women have to “dress their age”, showing that you can still look hot af in clothes society might deem inappropriate once you’re all grown up.

This is a comforting thought, especially if the start of a new year has you freaking out about the passing of time. “We have discovered the fountain of youth and it’s moms embracing their bodies,” reads one comment. Another says, “I’m no longer scared to get older.”

Studies suggest that fear of ageing starts early and being apprehensive about the inevitable is rising among young people. In 2018, the Royal Society for Public Health found that respondents aged 18-34 held more negative views about getting older than any other age group. In a survey by non-profit organisation Flawless, 60% of young adults believed that social media has contributed to their fear of ageing. The dressing my mum trend is refreshingly age-positive for TikTok given the number of anti-wrinkle and botox beauty hacks flourishing on the platform, with videos claiming the younger you start botox, the better.

Fears about ageing are often influenced by society’s made up rules about what you should look like and what you can and can’t do when you reach a certain age. The pressure can be intense, for women and mothers in particular, but the dressing my mum trend proves there’s space to subvert that pressure. You don’t have to stop wearing, or doing, what you enjoy as you get older. As long as what you wear makes you feel good, then who cares? In these videos, mums look happy and confident in their daughters’ clothes. Wearing something that pushes boundaries leads to compliments too, at least on TikTok where commenters type “slaayyyy” under every video or ask if the poster’s mum is single.

Ultimately, the trend acknowledges the beauty in getting older, something that fashion has traditionally ignored in favour of prizing youth. Older models are still underrepresented on the runway, even when most luxury brands’ customers are from predominantly older generations because they’re the ones with the money. Bottega Veneta and The Row were among the few brands to cast older women in their Spring/Summer 2023 shows. Data from the Spring/Summer 2020 season revealed that the median age of models was 23 and only one out of every 200 models was over 50.

But ageing doesn’t have to mean dressing in less eye-catching outfits. Advice on dressing for your age, like dressing for your body, is boring and prescriptive. It tends to make sweeping generalisations that disregard the fun in getting dressed.

There’s no law that says you have to trade bright colours for beige when you hit 40. When did we decide that glitter and miniskirts were reserved for nights out in our teens and twenties? Like going to festivals or eating Nutella with a spoon, the only age limit on clothes is the one we impose on them ourselves. The dressing my mum trend is helping us put fears of ageing aside and embrace what we love forever. And who knows? Maybe the next step is inviting our mums to a rave. After all, they already know exactly what to wear.

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