What is the receiving gifts love language?

3 mins
07 Feb 2023
What is the receiving gifts love language?

A compatibility and relationship expert explains the meaning behind this love language and how to talk about it with your partner(s)

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words Lucy O'Brien

Does it feel so damn good to receive a sentimental gift? Does something as small as having your favourite coffee bought for you push all the right buttons? Perhaps receiving gifts is your love language.

But what does this actually mean? We asked match-making expert Louella Alderson, Co-Founder of So Syncd, a dating app that matches compatible personality types, to help us understand why we like receiving gifts, as well as how to best express this form of affection towards a partner.

What is the receiving gifts love language?

There are five love languages in total: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. The concept was created by Gary Chapman in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, which talks all about how to use the framework of love languages in order to communicate and express romantic needs and love.

The receiving gifts love language is all about enjoying the fact that your partner is thinking about you and wants to bring you the things you like. Alderson explains: “Receiving gifts is the love language associated with receiving physical items. It isn’t about how much something costs, but rather the thought that goes into it. Examples of gifts might include flowers, chocolates, or even just a small item that shows you were thinking about them.”

Receiving gifts is my love language…

While any person with this love language probably loves being surprised with thoughtful things, no-one is a mind-reader. Alderson suggests to; “let your partner know what kinds of gifts make you feel loved and appreciated. You should also explain to them that it’s the thought behind the gifts that mean the most to you.”

Receiving gifts is my partner’s love language

Remember, it's not about splashing the case but finding something your partner loves. “If your partner's love language is receiving gifts, really think about what it is that makes them happy. The monetary value of the gifts isn’t important, it's about showing that you were thinking of them," she adds. "If you're popping to the shop, pick up their favourite snack as a surprise or order them their favourite takeaway.”

Are love languages even important?

The term "love language" has circled around the dating scene for a while now, and it doesn't seem to be going anywhere fast. According to a survey conducted by SoSync, 81% of its app users have used love languages as a way to improve their relationships. Hey, it may be worth looking into if you’re keen on understanding both your own and your partner(s) needs better.

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